A seemingly simple question, but it is quite difficult to give an appropriate answer to a few-year-old child. Young children are always curious and want to explore everything around them. They can ask their parents questions all day long. And surely parents at least once heard their children ask: “Mom, where am I from?”. A seemingly simple question, but it is quite difficult to give an appropriate answer to a few-year-old child.
If your child asks parents that way, when answering, be sure to avoid making the following 3 mistakes:
1. Give unfounded answers
Many parents in that case will talk in a random way, like: “Mother picked me up in the trash”. For parents it may be a joke, but children do not think so. They seriously asked their parents, of course, thinking that their parents’ answers were true.
So they will be very sad to know that they were originally in the trash, picked up by their parents. In the heart of the child must have a feeling of insecurity, insecurity, and anxiety, one day their parents have returned to the trash.
In fact, children around the age of 3 have begun to develop a desire for possession of things that belong to them, including their parents. They want parents to be their own and also want parents to love only their baby. At this time, after several years living side by side, the bond between parents – children also becomes strong, children especially do not want to leave their parents. Therefore, the unanswered answer of an adult is undoubtedly a great lash to the child.
Therefore, parents should not disregard their questions and talk freely. The world of children is very small, for you is just a joking joke, but for children can be a great big deal.
2. Avoid the problem
Someone who heard me ask that question immediately dismissed me: “You are a child, ask what those things are for!”. The child may not continue to ask parents at that time. But actually in the heart of the child has not forgotten his questions.
Without asking parents, children can ask others or their peers. At that time, the information collected by children will be very chaotic and even misleading. To avoid this situation, do not avoid problems when asked by your child!
3. Answering in a scientific way
It was not possible to give a quick answer, it was not possible to escape, but if the parents answered the child too scientifically it was not okay. By then, parents will provide children with gender knowledge that their age can not comprehend nor need to receive.
In addition, exposed to gender knowledge too early, the sooner the child will become curious about his body and the body of the opposite sex. Because the divinity of young children is curious, want to explore. It is an adverse effect for children in preschool and elementary age.
So how can parents answer their children?
For children ages 3-5, parents should provide answers as succinctly as possible, avoiding specialized words as well.
According to the education expert, parents can smile and gently tell their children: “Mom and Dad, after getting married, they want to have a lovely child.
So take a little on the father, a little on the mother, then put on the womb and the child has grown up in the womb. Do the aunties sometimes say that they look like their mother and at other times say they look like their father or not? ”.
At this time, the child will definitely “say”: “It turned out to be like this, no wonder you look just like Mom and Dad!”.